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(I wasn’t going to write an introduction to this article, but it hit me that there is no way I can get around it due to the nature of the content below. Before you read this article you need to understand that no look or body type that you desire to carry is wrong. This article is not about knocking the “skinny girl” or “bulky lifters.” The purpose of this article it to finally give a definition of what the average population believes to be bulky .  What you choose from there is your personal journey.)

In 1909 in New York there was an all women’s weight lifting group. They met in private in a rundown gym after closing hours. The janitor would let them in, and they would train with massive intensity and passion. They would leave and return to their families and husbands never saying a word about what they did in their off time.

It is no secret that in 1909 weight lifting for women was not only unpopular, but looked down upon severely by society.

100 years later, and the world has new (and not so new) perspectives.

Does heavy equal bulk?

Women lift weights all the time now, that isn’t overly abnormal. The amount of weights they lift is the topic of interest and controversy. Often we see women lifting 3-5lb weights or do non-weighted floor exercises that are at a very low challenge level. Challenge meaning the difference between a one armed bodyweight push-up and those “ab flutter” things.

When it comes to gaining in strength or hypertrophy for anyone there is one undeniable fact, you need an extreme amount of resistance. You do not achieve a 500lb deadlift just because you decided to pick it up that day. You have to steadily increase in the load amount of the weight you are lifting. This is irrefutable.

What is questionable, what is not defined, is what determines “bulky.” When a woman moves out of the 5lb dumbbell range she internally asks the question “Will lifting this heavy weight make me bulky?”

What defines bulky?

When I got into all of this (my job) I started off like many looking at bodybuilders and figure competitors. I am not going to lie, at first I was massively uninterested in looking at any of them and was turned off.  I didn’t quite understand why a guy wanted that many veins on his body, or why a woman wanted no tits and large biceps. As time went by and I looked at these bodies more and more, trained them, and helped people achieve those bodies, my view changed.

My perception of fat, lean, large mass, and small mass has changed. I have a broader view of what I see as attractive, strong, and pretty. You can get used to seeing a certain type of look and style to the point to where it alters your perception. Thankfully I have a good head on my shoulders because due to my job I have to be highly critical of body fat levels, muscle build, etc. I could be so easily screwed and many are.

The Poll

I took it to a poll of 2000 women online. I asked the following questions…

(Participants were of college education, between 21-45, and of moderate to higher income. It included both single and married women. Some statics vary for being skipped over.)

How many times a week do you exercise?

None-23%
1-2-11%
3-4-34%
4-5-11%
5+-21%

Do you lift weights that you consider to be heavy?

Yes-21%
No-79%

Do you think that muscles on women are attractive?

No, never-41%
Sometimes, in small amounts-26%
Sometimes, depends on the body-15%
Yes, most of the time-14%
Yes, always-4%

Do you think that men like muscle on a women?

Yes-18%
No-72%

Do you think that women like muscles on other women?

Yes-13%
No-77%

Of the listed women, whose body do you like looking at the most?

Paris Hilton-12%
Angelina Jolie-19%
Jessica Alba-35%
Jessica Biel-12%
Kate Winslet-22%

Of these women who do you feel defines muscular/bulky on the terms that you are thinking for this survey?

Jessica Alba-2%
Jessica Biel-36%
Madonna-19%
Hilary Swank (Million Dollar Baby)-43%

Would you rather appear to be…

Too Thin-71%
Too Muscular-11%
Too Fat-18%

If you thought that lifting heavy weights wouldn’t make you bulky/muscular, would you lift them?

Yes-34%
No-66%

The Results

Bulky

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Not Bulky

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Here are a few interesting bullet points that we can take away from this survey.

  • The majority of women don’t like the look of muscle on themselves or others.
  • The majority of women feel that men prefer the lack of look of muscle on the body.
  • The majority felt that Jessica Biel and Hilary Swank (in MDB) define “bulky.”
  • The majority of the women expressed little interest in lifting weight, even if it didn’t result in a “bulking” effect.
  • A large majority of women would rather be too thin than either too fat or too muscular.
  • More women choose to be fat over muscular.
  • Based on the actress looks, women prefer softer and trim over too lean or too muscular.

Do these 2000 women make up a piece of what speaks for the world? I personally think it does, and it is almost what I would predict in this situation. The question is…

DOES IT MATTER?

Are these women wrong about what makes you bulky? What does this mean for women who have even more muscle and more definition than the women above? Does lifting heavy weights lead to bigger muscles? If these women state that too big of muscle is considered to be Jessica Biel or Hilary Swank, then the answer is yes, they do. To throw in an extra note Jessica Biel has since that picture atrophied to a lesser size for her career.

The Outback Jack Conclusion

I don’t know if I just got lucky or if it was fate that brought the “Outback Jack” marathon to my door one Sunday afternoon. To give you a short summary, “Outback Jack” was one of many dating shows. The premise was a group of girls were dropped off in the middle of the Outback to endure nature and meet the man of their dreams. If that isn’t entertainment, I don’t know what is.

During the course of these episodes a challenge was brought forth to the remaining 5 girls. 5 new girls were brought on the show to race against them on an obstacle course. These girls were nicknamed the “Amazons” due to their “bulging muscles” and “butch” bodies.

I hit the record button on my DVR and put together a highlight reel of some of the best comments. It is safe to say that the view that these women given are the standard view of most women in America and goes right again along with the poll. If you take a look at what most of the “butch” women look like, it’s pretty interesting.

The Conflicting Advice

The problem with a bunch of trainers is they don’t make any sense. They tell you that “lifting heavy won’t make you bulky” but then say the lovely phrase “don’t worry you have lost fat, you just traded out muscle some too!”  They say “Women can’t gain muscle! They don’t have the testosterone or genetics,” but then say “On my programs women can make great gains in muscle and strength!”

My favorite contradiction is that the majority of the guys telling you to lift heavy and not be afraid of weights are the same guys putting up pictures of models and actresses that are “smokin,” when most have never touched a real weight in their life.  Just a little something for you to think about there.

The Muscle Building Limit?

Most women can gain a certain amount of muscle, but there is a tapping point. After that point it takes a long time of effort, eating, and dedication to achieve that next level of gain. Beyond that it takes drugs. The problem is that years of training can lead to more muscle than some women wanted, especially if their diet wasn’t what it should be. The body fat underneath didn’t allow them to see what they were gaining. This is great if it was the look you wanted, but not so great if it is the look you didn’t.

The Body Fat Factor

The majority of women are not suffering from the big muscles they think they are. A lot of women never get lean enough to see the other side of things. This is because your body fat levels are too high to show any definition. Mix that with a lifting program you just end up looking fatter, but firmer. I should note that some like this look. Remember nothing is “wrong” here.

Take the women on our “Outback Jack” video, the majority of them are just higher body fat levels and have tight traps. This is what the majority of women think of when they are “bulking up” on their own bodies. They may or may not be bulking up, but they are “plumping” up. Word to the wise if you train women, most don’t like to plump.

Instead of avoiding the issue you need to confront it. If you are a trainer or the trainee, you need to express clearly what is happening instead of feeding yourself or your client a bunch of hot air. The majority of the time the fix is in less body fat overall. Madonna for example has a pretty decent amount of muscle for her age, but carries a generally lower amount of body fat. She was still considered less bulky than bodies  Biel and Swank. Why? Likely because their muscle was under a larger layer of body fat, giving a less desired look to the survey participants.

Before you accuse the muscle of being the culprit, take a look at the body fat.

What do we do now? Where do we go from here?

  • Train for the look you want. That is what you do, period. If you don’t want to look like you lift heavy weights, don’t lift heavy weights. Don’t mistake this as this being the answer to your body problems, it isn’t. My point is the only people that look like that lift or train aggressively are those who lift and train aggressively.
  • Don’t be afraid to be strong, if you want to be. Don’t suppress what is inside because of society. No ones judgment is worth your dream and the more that people get to see change, the faster change happens.
  • Don’t judge others for what they want to do. I am just as tired of those who lift bashing those who don’t. No one HAS to deadlift to be healthy.
  • Be crystal clear about what you want from your training and how you are going to get it.
  • Realize that no training will make you look like someone you want to look like. You have to look like the best version of yourself
  • If you want to say screw it to the world and go for it anyway then be prepared for a very long and hard journey. Be prepared to eat a lot of food and lift heavy weights. Be prepared to have to face scrutiny and judgment based on these decisions.

Always remember that normal isn’t normal anyway, and everyone can have their world view changed when their world does.

I do have plans in the future of releasing a program that provides everyone, “bulky” or not the results and answers they need for these problems and questions. In the meantime, I hope this helps you be able to communicate better with others and, truthfully, yourself.

To read my follow up article “Bulky Muscles and Women -  Part Deux” click here


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