Investing in your motivational dollar

Motivation is a living thing. It breathes, it eats, and it begs of you everyday to help drive it. The biggest mistake that people make when thinking about motivation is that it does all the work. Let me give you an example.

Darren is 35 years old. His story is average, his pains are average, and his dreams are average. He is stuck in the world of trying to be realistic and getting by. Everyday he goes to work, and every night he comes home.Perhaps 1 out of every 50 days something happens that is worth remembering to Darren. Sometimes that 1 day ends up being a bad thing, not a good one. He says to himself “If only I were motivated by something! If only there was something out there worth being excited about and worth working towards!”

Darren doesn’t work for motivation, he expects it to just be there. Like they say in business, “you need to spend money to make money,” the same is true for motivation. Sometimes you have to spend motivation to make it.

Motivational Currency

A few weeks ago I saw via email, twitter, facebook, blogs, forums, and TV the tail of the frumpy woman who stole the hearts of the world while singing on Britain’s talent show.You will never find a negative story being passed around in the same manner. You will never find a mediocre story passed around in the same manner. The value of the dollar, euro, franc and yen is dead. The stock in motivation is the highest it has ever been.

Why?

People put their motivational hopes in others. They hope, like a virus, they will catchΒ  some small part of that magic. Like in the movie “Outbreak” it will go airborne and through osmosis that woman will be enough motivational currency to get us out of debt.

25,000 Mornings

They say the average person has 25,000 mornings to a lifetime. Some more and some less, but overall that is our average. How does reading that make you feel? I don’t know about you, but that scares the shit out of me. I see that number, I think about my mornings, and I think “Have I done enough? Have I made my mornings worth it?”

If the answer is no, then the immediate question should be, “Why didn’t I have a great and memorable morning today?”

How many mornings are you in debt?

Everyone has different reasons for missing the chance to change their lives. The top reasons are…

  • Fear
  • Un-education
  • Laziness
  • Apathy

There is one common thread among those 4 reasons. Can you guess what it is?

Laziness

Education can be gained.
Apathy disappears with expenditure.
Fear usually dies in the hand of education

Laziness is the killer of motivation. Most people think it is the other way around. They think we are lazy because we lack motivation. This is the furthest from the truth. You have to work for motivation.

3 Steps to motivating motivation

#1- Balance out Negativity

This might sound negative, but I see positive people screw up positivity all the time. They seem to think that if you ever think a bad thought, or have any kind of quality control or selectivity, that you are welcoming negativity. It doesn’t work that way, and 100% goes against balance.

Then there are the other people who think that thinking positive is for new age people who are naive and don’t understand the real world. They think that being positive, means being unrealistic.

Balancing out negativity means that for ever negative thing that occurs in your life that you balance it out with a positive reaction. The catch is that the positive has to be stronger than the negative. Think of it as a 2:1 ratio of positive to negativity. Here are a few examples.

  • For every bad news you happen to cross, find two pieces of good news.
  • For every time you eat badly, eat twice as good.
  • For every one workout you miss, make two.
  • For every bad thing you say about someone, say two nice things about someone else.

#2- It isn’t just a goal, its your life

Motivation shouldn’t waiver unless your love for the life you live does. To some degree, the less motivated and inspired we are, the closer to death with live. Since I believe in that message, I believe that everyday is a day worth of having motivation.

When you pin your hopes on one goal only, that hope will die when the goal is achieved or changed. Instead of doing that, your need to make your life a constant motivation, constant new goals, and constant test grounds for those goals. In doing that you end up living a life of motivation.

#3 Like attracts like

Here is a sad, but true statement. Most people don’t have the friendships and partners they desire to have. People settle for what is there, instead of reaching for what could be. We settle in friendship, in romance, in jobs, etc. We do this all in fear of not being alone, or rocking the boat too much. You have to change this pattern as soon as possible. I assure you that good people are always looking for more good people. I also want to assure you that misery loves company.

Which crowd would you rather hang with?

This article isn’t about putting a picture on your fridge or hanging up the clothes you want to fit in. This is about going deeper and becoming inside the kind of person that will achieve their dreams. Not once or twice on a fluke, but for life because they are rich with motivational currency.

Song of the Post: Nina Simone – Feeling Good

Before starting any new diet and exercise program please check with your doctor and clear any exercise and/or diet changes with them before beginning. I am not a doctor or registered dietitian. I do not claim to cure any cause, condition or disease. I do not provide medical aid or nutrition for the purpose of health or disease and claim to be a doctor or dietitian. This is merely an opinion blog. Read full disclaimer here - http://www.leighpeele.com/disclaimer

 

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31 Comments

  1. Eliana

    One of your best posts ever!

    I am listening to the song in another window πŸ˜›

  2. Katie Nemargut

    I am so glad I read this before bed. Really fantastic points, and of course great song.

  3. Hazel

    I see you’re adding philosopher to your credentials. πŸ™‚ This post couldn’t have come a better time for me. Thanks Leigh. πŸ™‚

  4. Stephanie

    I totally agree, Eliana! This is good stuff! Love the song!

  5. Diane

    Perfect timing, Leigh! I really needed a kick in the butt to get me back on track. Thanks so much for a great post. And, by the way, the new site looks fabulous!

  6. Jim

    Great post, Leigh…

    “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”
    ~Aristotle

  7. iSteeve

    Great post Leigh. Your site looks great and works well! Nice choice of images and music added to an already well done post.

  8. Sinead

    Great post! I once taught with a principal who asked us to say 6 nice or positive things (especially to or about our students) for every one negative thing that we heard. Those years while he was in charge were some of the most positive and most energized the school had ever been. It’s super easy to get sucked into negative thinking, espcially if you’re surrounded by it. THe same is true for positivity, though; surrounding yourself with (mostly) positive thinking people–people who generally feel hopeful about life and about things–makes it much easier to see the positive yourself.

    Besides, they’re just more fun to be around, too! πŸ˜‰

  9. Missy

    Very timely – thank you Leigh!

  10. Amanda

    Love the idea of working for motivation. Seems like it’s related to inertia–once you’ve got it, it’s easy to keep it, but when you lose it, you really have to work at getting it going again.

    But actually, I prefer to try to think positive thoughts about people whom I’ve thought about negatively, rather than find another person to think positively about–it serves to remind me that most people are shades of gray, not all bad (or irritating, as the case may be).

  11. Smith "just"

    Leigh, what are your thoughts about things like “The Secret” and Neuro-Linguistic Programming?

  12. ~liz

    Whoa

  13. Charlie

    What a bloody fantastically written post!!! ur a genius!! THANK_YOU – Going to print and read daily!!!

  14. Leigh Peele

    Thanks a lot for the positive comments.

    Amanda-I agree with thinking positively about people who have been negative. My take home point was to not ignore negative actions for the sake of positivity. IE: Quality Control.

    I have a big problem with people thinking to have quality control means to be negative, but that is another post for another day.

  15. Leigh Peele

    Smith-You know its a mixed bag of hope, visualizing what you want, and positive thinking.

    I believe in the notion that you need to believe in yourself and your dreams for them to come true. Like with most things, some of it is bunk and some of it is good information based of of what I believe to be “no shit” principles.

    I subscribe to the belief of no shit.

    If you surround yourself by good people, you will feel better.
    No shit.

    If you obsess daily about what you want to achieve and work towards it, you will achieve it.
    No shit.

    If you don’t let the negative live in your head, and you pull in the positive where you find it, you will be happier.
    No shit.

    If you wear a lot of man jewelry, you will get laid.
    That one actually blows my mind.

  16. Leigh Peele

    Liz-I have received a few “Whoa’s” in my life and that was a good one.

    Charlie- Thanks a lot. P.S. email should be back to you soon.

  17. Nia Shanks

    Damn, Leigh. I thought I just had a great post about motivation recently! You just blew mine away. : )

  18. Sinead

    Ok, the “No Shit” philosophy is cracking me up!!

  19. Josh Aronovitch

    Wow. Reading this is potentially life changing. I may have just read it at absolutely the right time, when my mind was receptive to its message, but this post is a must read for everyone wanting to start living the life they would dream of if they had the courage.

    Thank you for posting it Leigh.

  20. Leigh Peele

    Sinead I believe that the “no shit” philosophy is some of my best work.

  21. Leigh Peele

    Josh-Thanks for your comment. It really means a lot.

  22. Sinead

    I agree, Leigh! πŸ˜‰ It gets right to the core of who you are and what you stand for. It doesn’t take much editing, either. hehehe πŸ˜‰

  23. Christine

    I love this post Leigh! I have already read it three times. I will continue to read it until all the points stick. Thank you thank you thank you!

  24. meg

    This post is Over The Top–I think I really can lift a car over my head…or at least a pony or two πŸ™‚ You certainly have what buddhists call “skillful means.” Not only do you rock, you ARE a rock. wow.

  25. Vicki k.

    1. Is the “no shit” intoned as “duh, don’t you already know this you pathetic clueless loser” or “listen up buttercup this is for so real you can believe it so”? πŸ˜‰
    2. Nice site, now that I’m visiting it with my (sigh) antiquated version on IE.
    3. What’ man jewelry, and where can I buy some?

  26. Rose

    Awesome post! How did you get to be so wise!!

  27. Andrea

    I have been listening to this song anytime I need a boost for months – it is the BEST!!!

  28. Tamara Christie

    Leigh, what a great kickoff. This month of motivation will be such a gift. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself!!!

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