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Sizeism – Hate And Ignorance, On Both Sides?


In this industry, you wouldn’t believe the jerks I can come into contact with. Real jerks (male or female) who love to sit on their superior high horse and lecture the virtues of their amazing being. Jerks who must be dealing with shoulder impingements because of the self-promoting glorification they give themselves. Forget basic narcissism and delusions of grandeur, we move into the true illness of Self-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (SOCD). Don’t get me wrong, I know the importance of self-promotion, but there is a fine line between the pride you have in your work, and just being a tool. My point is, it is easy to be high and mighty about your own anecdotal experiences. It is easy when you have never walked in the shoes of difficulty.

“I can find a job, why can’t they?”
“I can make money, why can’t they?”
“I can lose weight, why can’t they?”
“I can train everyday, why can’t they?”

America is big on the “If I can do it, you can do it!” motto. This is great when we are looking at it through rose colored glasses and transformation photos. This is great, when we are watching a documentary of the outlier making a life for themselves. This is not so great when it is coming from those looking down on you. Be is rippling abs or a congressmen, being in the position of defending your position is hard.


There was a gigantic stir caused by a writer for Marie Claire a little while ago because of her article discussing the role of obese characters on tv. She, for lack of a better term, f**ked up royally and basically insulted so many people, I am surprised she isn’t getting pelted with croissants on a daily basis.

She wrote:

…anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.

Damn! Don’t hold back your feelings. With 4000+ comments on the article, I don’t think anyone is holding back their feelings.

This isn’t the only time this type of conversation has taken place. Study after study shows weight basis and negative opinion is a real thing. How you are hired, the friends you have, and dating is all affected by how you look. To say otherwise is living in a world I call “unreality.”

Education Isn’t A Right. Even If It Was…

A common critical thinking error is the idea that if you can learn something, so can someone else. “Fat people are lazy and uneducated!”

As a teacher to my community, I have had to learn that people learn at different paces. Just because I understand something and teach it, doesn’t mean they are going to understand it. When you are learning something it isn’t just what you are taking in, it is what was already there in the first place. Educational and life breeding is a real thing. I don’t want to get to deep into politics, but what a lot of people (all parties and affiliations) don’t understand about lower education is where you begin does help define what you have to work with. Conditioning and environment breed how you take in knowledge, what you believe, and how easy it is to understand.

Those who live in middle class areas, might not realize how upper class your life is to those who aren’t experiencing it. That the use of everyday terms, words, and social interactions shape who you are in tremendous ways.

What Does This Have To Do With Hating Fat People Or Yourself?

I believe, wholeheartedly, that it isn’t our fault for being confused. It is hard to know who to trust and where to go for information. We can’t even agree on basic physics anymore in this industry. It blows my mind what those trying to stir media can do to convince people against basic science. To the uninformed, trying to become informed is met with more confusion than ever.

Those of you who find yourselves in the high and mighty arena, can you imagine for a moment finding yourself at 300 pounds, sitting in a dark place, and not even knowing who to trust? Knowing you want to change, but not even knowing what to do? After all, one week you can eat carbs, and the next you can’t. One person says calories count and another says they don’t. All you know is that the hunger, depression, and judgment is enough to not only leave you demotivated, but practically suicidal on a weekly basis. This is what people have to look forward to.

It is easy to say “Get over yourself, just do it!”

It doesn’t matter if you did it yourself, you aren’t them and this isn’t your life. Maybe they never had athletics, maybe they were obsessed with activities that required stillness, maybe they have never had a true friend their entire life. You never know where someone is at on their path. There before the grace…go you or I.

Do You Hate Yourself?

Constantly those who are overweight (we aren’t just talking about morbid obesity anymore) are dealing with serious issues of shame and judgement. This judgement is coming more from your internal dialogue than it is external forces. You should know better right? You have more pride than this and you are an educated individual. How could it possibility have got to this point?

I could babble on and on about self-acceptance, studies about the turning points of realization, and at some point I will. The brilliant truth is one quote is all anyone needs to know.

With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now. – Emerson

Your education and change can start right here, right now. Your future is whatever you want it to become.

Here Is Where I Surprise You

To make it clear, I don’t think being obese is healthy. To be more detailed, there is a degree of moderate overweight that can be unhealthy. For those pro-fat writers out there who like to glorify unhealthiness due to their giving up, lack of education, or plain ole personal preference — I don’t agree with you. Not only do I not agree with you, I think you are just as bad as the people who are pointing the blame. It’s time you own up to your choice for what it is — a choice.

Understand, I agree with embracing your body and that we all come in different shapes and sizes. I am not saying everyone need to be athletic or the common belief of beautiful, whatever that is in the world you live in. I don’t think every female needs to be a size 2, 36CC, and legs for days. I don’t think every man needs to be 6% body fat and ready at a moments notice for a superhero film. Some people really just don’t give a damn and there are more important things on their plate than perceived perfection. But, there is a difference between airbrushed expectations, and throwing the towel in on your health and longevity, which I personally feel is a waste.

Get busy living or else you aren’t going to like me very much.

The End Of Fat Judgment Of Ourselves and Others

We have got to put aside our preconceived notions about ourselves and other people. This doesn’t begin or end here, but sometimes people relating and understanding one issue on a deeper level, may lead to understanding other issues. If you are having a hard time understanding why you can’t lose weight and find yourself confused in a mess of information, maybe you can relate to someone who is struggling at something else they aren’t good at. It doesn’t matter the location, frustration breeds an unfavorable reality for all.

If You Are A Trainer/Educator/Enthusiast

Try not to be judgmental.  Think about your impact and the strength of your words. Don’t talk down to people, but be open for education if it is asked for. It may seem all in good fun to sport the alpha dominate behavior, but the end result could mean turning away the people who’s purpose you are claiming to serve.

There is a word a lot of people need to learn — compassion. Not tolerance, because in all honestly I am not a fan of that term or the intent behind it. Compassion doesn’t come with pretension or the understanding that you are better than someone. Compassion is simply have empathy and care for an individuals situation, and guiding your actions accordingly. It doesn’t mean you have to treat people as if they are stupid or with kid gloves. If someone isn’t dedicated or doesn’t care, it comes in all shapes. But, the intro course to a persons self should come with no preconceived negative judgement on your part, only compassion for the situation they are dealing with.

Help those who want to be helped.

If You Are Trying To Lose Fat

Ease up and try to be critical and selective of the resources and leaders you choose to put your faith in. Look to textbooks over gimmicks and infomercials. Look to people who have passion and common sense over an hyperactive personality and “belief” systems. Do not lay claim to the “I am helpless, it isn’t in my control” way of thinking. It is in your control, you can help it. You can change your life. It will not be easy, at all. It may not even be worth it to you. But, you aren’t helpless.

Help yourself, if you want to be helped.

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