I wasn’t overly familiar with who Portia De Rossi (now Degeneres) was prior to reading this book. All I really knew was she acted on Arrested Development (brilliant) and single-handedly destroyed 1001 lesbian stereotypes. However, no more than 10 pages into the book, I knew her extremely well. I didn’t know her because of the honest and frank details she was sharing through her writing. I knew her, because she was the spitting image of so many women I work with.
The book is her personal account (no ghostwriter) of her life struggling with an eating disorder and her sexuality. I would say over 80% of the book is focused on her issues with bulimia, anorexia and compulsive exercise. The bottom point of her disorder landed her at 82 pounds at a height of 5’8 and collapsing. After collapsing, she was examined by doctors and told she had bone and liver deficiencies and was misdiagnosed with Lupus.
You could be thinking, “Great, another book about an eating disorder. Just what we need!” I have read quite a few books and memoirs on the subject. Not to mention, the real life experiences. I can easily say this is at the top of the list that touches on the reality of the situation, while maintaining an very interesting (and at times intense) read. She wasn’t afraid to “go there.” It wasn’t dramatic or trite. It was just the right amount of exposure.
I like that she doesn’t end it in a “the birds are singing and world is shinning” kind of way. She (self-admitted) is still dealing with certain issues and is still healing. Overall, it is a great read.
Why Am I Reviewing This Book?
Obviously, a memoir isn’t the normal type of book review I give on the site. There is an important reason I chose to review this book, put up the podcast I did this week, and the post about the blood tests.
Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, I get an email that begs me for help. These emails can be 2000+ words long, are always layered in panic and anxiety, and running out of hope. The number one question I get now is – “When is MRM going to be re-released?” I do the best I can to answer these emails, but there is only so much time in a day. Normally I use to refer to the MRM book and call it a day. I didn’t realize how many people were helped and affected by that book.
Recently, I have had an increasingly large influx of email. I highly doubt it’s just my ever growing and adoring fan base. Be it the state of our current industry or pressure of the world – things are getting worse in the area of eating disorders. It is important to take this seriously now and hit it head on.
Because of all this, I am putting a higher priority on getting it re-written. It will be even more detailed and help (I think) more than before. I am also setting up a separate email list for those who want information on this type of stuff specifically and when MRM comes out. It will be the best way to stay updated on things in general. If you are interested – sign up below. I am going to do what I can to try and get the book re-written and edited by the new year. Stay tuned.
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I read this book a few days ago and it is amazing. Portia writes very beautifully and with a poignant undertone. I am still in the stages of recovering from my eating disorder. I have carried it with me since 14 years old and got down to 93lbs myself. It is important for multiple speakers on these issues.
It would be great Leigh if you could do an article in the future about the long term effects and what to expect. I still don’t feel completely “right” after my experiences.
There will be stuff on this in the future. I will say off the cuff, I find the issues with full recovery lie with action less that anatomy.
Just ordered it on itunes. So excited!
Curious, is she the reader? I know I could look it up, but having a lazy day.
Yes, the audiobook is read by De Rossi and it is amazingly well read. This book has changed my life.
Leigh, I know it might not be the “fun” writing and research, but we need your help! Thank you for doing this book review, I am looking so so forward to reading it.
Welcome.
I apologize if I missed something, but what is the “MRM” book?
MRM= Leigh’s Metabolic Repair Manual
Thanks Grainne. There I ago, assuming everyone knows everything.
The Metabolic Repair Manual was a book released for a while that dealt with helping heal metabolic issues brought on by dieting and exercise habits I am editing them now, and will be re-releasing it soon.
I saw her on Oprah and so much of what she said was me as well. I did well for a while but here lately have been not doing so well. I hate when ED rears it’s ugly head. I have MRM but am anxious for the update.
Thanks Leigh for the care and concern you give to us ED victims – the ones most other “gurus” call neurtotic and not worthy of their time
Fantastic book! Had the pleasure of attending her book signing in NYC. What a wonderful person.
Please visit our Group PORTIA FANS – A Lovely Place for a Lovely Lady. On the Ellen community!
http://community.ellentv.com/group/portiafans
Leigh, link to the book with your Amazon affiliate account so we can give you money!
Heh, couldn’t even if I wanted to. North Carolina tax laws don’t allow for most affiliate sales through major merchants. That is why 90% of stuff I talk about will not be an affiliate sale. But then, I would never talk about something I would sale, that I wouldn’t talk about for free anyway, so it doesn’t really matter.
I love Ellen and what she gives back to life. And her life partner, Portia, is a lovely lady. I wish Portia much success in spreading the knowledge through her book. I do not have an eating disorder and my overall opinion of sexuality is that most of us are pretty screwed up about it a good deal of our lives until we get our head straight. Whether heterosexual or gay, the same problems abound in our lives. It is a fact of human life.
Meanwhile, you go, girl. And fair winds be with you.
[...] 5. Unbearable Lightness [...]
How do you know she didn’t use a ghostwriter? I’ve been trying to find out, and this is the first place I’ve seen that has an answer; I was just wondering where you found out.
On a different note, I LOVED Unbearable lightness! I have an eating disorder, and I just came out as bisexual, and there was a lot to relate to in her book.
[...] messages about bulimia and eating disorders the past couple of weeks. I am currently working on the edits of Metabolic Repair Manual; but, I felt this was an opportune time to post up a few facts and stories that (hopefully) might [...]
Tuesday- She said that on the Ellen DeGeneres Show.
hey there…………does anyone have a copy of the MRM they may want to loan/sell to me?? I am DESPERATE to overcome my eating disorder (for both myself AND my 5 DAUGHTERS (from 12 down to 4………one with special needs).
Signed,
Desperate for HELP…….